Veterans Day...Honoring our Heroes

Happy Veteran's Day to you all! 

It is true this national holiday is about those who have served our country so that we may all live in freedom. My family has a long history of military service members...my father-in-law, my sister-in-law, two brother-in-laws, my husband, my brother, and my oldest son. I am truly grateful for their service...some long-term, some short-term. Regardless of their time in duty, they made sacrifices unknown to many who do not know them. I am truly proud to call them family.

On a slight twist, today I honor some of my other hero's....those who have had cancer, survived or lost their battles, and many who have inspired me. These folks have also made sacrifices (personal and professional) and seen may small battles in their fight to win the war. Armed with IVs, medications with side effects beyond your wildest nightmares, been poked, prodded, and (some may say) tortured with procedure upon procedure...yet we seem to endure...and look to the horizon and God for an end to our battle and freedom from cancer.

 

 

Some of these folks are my relatives and some are unrelated to me. But all are my family...we share our trials and tribulations, our hopes and dreams, our discomforts and our sorrows. We are much like
a military family...all in this together and we all have each others backs. The battle may against different foes...but like our military counterparts, we all have HOPE and pray for PEACE
and that our battle may one day be won. 

So today, please take a moment of silence to honor our Veterans of war, past, present and future. Remember their sacrifices in battles lost or battles won. 

God Bless us all...and help us Finish the Fight!

Too busy lately to blog....

Lately it has been a bit crazy in my little world. My "all good" intentions to blog every 7-10 days have fallen by the wayside.. So, in lieu of that, here's a great blog from my favorite support website, WhatNext.com.

As patients/survivors we often believe that the only way others can truly know what we are going through is if they hear those three words themselves, "You have cancer." 

It's likely that most people feel they are in the dark when a loved one is diagnosed with cancer. How can I help? What is she feeling? Is he angry about getting cancer? Why did God make her get cancer? Why is he sleeping all the time? Will I still love her when her hair falls out...or if she has her breasts removed?

These are all valid questions for a loved one. Here are some insights from patients/survivors dealing with cancer. Sometimes not speaking is the best bet...give a hug instead.

http://www.whatnext.com/blog/posts/patient-to-loved-ones-things-we-want-you-to-know-about-having-cancer

And, oh yea....if you haven't checked out WhatNext.com yet....DO! There is a wealth of information there from those of us who have walked the walk as well as loved ones yearning for answers. 

Blessings,
Lisa 

Happy Independence Day!

Yesterday, July 4, 2013, was a day of independence for our country. Many of you celebrated with backyard BBQs, fireworks, friends and family. Despite all the fun, good times, laughter, food and beer...as a military spouse, it was always a time for my family to reflect on the real reason for our celebrations.

Why in 1776 did the United States of American declare their independence from our motherland? FREEDOM! Yes, freedom...so that we could escape the overly abundant taxes, worship in our own ways, enjoy freedom of speech, and basically become self-governed. 

For the first time in many years, I was without family or friends to celebrate with this 4th of July. The day left me to contemplate the meaning of being independent and free.

free·dom

  [free-duhm]

noun

1.

the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint.

2.

exemption from external control, interference, regulation, etc.

3.

the power to determine action without restraint.

4.

political or national independence.

5.

personal liberty, as opposed to bondage or slavery.

This quote from Louis D. Brandeis is enlightening. To be free (or survive), you have to have courage...courage to choose your battles, to take risks, to fight, and to have the integrity to endure whatever comes your way. You do NOT give up!

As a leukemia survivor, I have indeed declared my independence from cancer! People always said to me, "You're going to make it." I never asked "why me?" in the face of my diagnosis...but just always had a positive attitude, kept moving forward in each stage of treatment, and even afterwards. Just like our revolution against Britain, some battles were easier than others and some were tough. But the moment that you DECIDE to fight, is the moment that you begin to declare your independence and freedom from whatever it is that is holding you back.

So, if you haven't already...it's time to FIGHT! Give it your all...hope...pray...have faith...roll with the punches...and don't let cancer steal your FREEDOM! Happy Independence Day ~

Blessings,

Lisa

Y Not? Relay??

The Survivors of Team Y Not? at Relay for Life of Sarpy County, June 8, 2013

This year was my second experience with Relay for Life. I am the Team Captain of Team Y Not? ~ why that name? Well, we started our team at the Sarpy County YMCA in the LiveStrong program. If you are not familiar with that program, it is a program for cancer survivors in treatment or beyond. That program got me up and moving and out of depression. It literally changed my life! For detailed information check it out at: http://www.livestrong.org/What-We-Do/Our-Actions/Programs-Partnerships/LIVESTRONG-at-the-YMCA

But our name really means much more than that. Why not Relay? Why not come out and support survivors, caregivers, and advocates at a Relay for Life event? Why not raise funds to find a cure? Why not??

Cancer touches all of us: the patient, their spouses or partners, their children, extended families, friends and co-workers. I bet YOU even have known someone whose dealt with this disease. Let's face it...when the facts are that 1 in 2 men and 1 in 3 women will get cancer in their lifetimes, the statistics staggering. In my family alone, I've lost 5 members to cancer...all had a different kind. And my sister and I are survivors. Do you think my cousins, children, and my future grandchildren will be shaking in their boots thinking "who's going to be next....me?" You bet your booty they are. I know...I've been there...and my children are scared.

That's why I Relay....not to walk in honor of my Mom who died of lung cancer in 2010...or my maternal Grandmother who died of pancreatic cancer in 2002. But for ALL of us! So that no one has to shed the amount of tears I have, or go through the pain, nausea, and chemo brain that I did, or make a "bucket list" when I thought I wasn't going to live to see the day my youngest son (age 11 at the time I was diagnosed) would grow up and go to college, or to see my daughter walk down the aisle with her Dad at her side.

I walk for YOU!!

Each year I raise my fundraising goal a little higher. Because I want to be part of the global movement to end cancer forever. Because I took advantage of some of the American Cancer Society's programs (such as "Look Good, Feel Better") and they lifted me up and gave me a positive attitude during my fight. I walked last year all night long with a knee that was in severe pain. This year I walked with a new knee (yes, a total knee replacement was needed after chemo and meds deteriorated my bones). Next year I hope I will walk stronger, longer, and farther. And every year I will keep walking for a cure. I will walk until I can't walk any longer...and even if I am in a wheelchair, I will be there.

That is the core reason I Relay. But there are so many other reasons: it is serious FUN, a party with a PURPOSE, a great time to meet and hear stories of and celebrate SURVIVORS, REMEMBER our loved ones who've past, FIGHT BACK, and a real reason to HOPE.

If you've attended a Relay for Life event before, put that on your "live" list....and just DO IT! It's an experience you'll never forget.

For more pictures from our Team Y Not? and the Sarpy County, NE Relay for Life 2013 event please visit our Team Facebook page...and it's still not too late to make a donation in honor or celebration of someone you love. We're just $62 away from our Team goal!

https://www.facebook.com/RelayForLifeTeamYNot?fref=ts

Thanks for reading....and remember, Life is Good!

Lisa
Owner/Artist and Survivor
www.cancerkaleidoscope.com

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Guest Blog: 5 Ways to Cope After Being Diagnosed with Cancer....compliments of WhatNext.com

GUEST BLOG:
Today's blog is from Greg Pierce is a 3x cancer survivor and community manager for WhatNext.com

A cancer diagnosis may take a toll on all areas of your life. It can affect your emotions, your physical body, your daily routine, and even your mind. Here are five firsthand insights on positive ways that you can begin your journey in each of those areas of your life.

1. Emotional - It’s likely that you will experience a whirlwind of emotions after you hear that you are diagnosed with cancer. It may include shock, fear, anxiety, and even denial. Embrace your emotions; let them sink in; do not push them away. If you deal with emotions head-on then you might find it easier to move on. If you feel overwhelmed you can seek the help of a counselor or support group.

2. Physical - (Are you reading closely? This one is important.) Take care of you. You just became your number #1 priority. This means making all those “cliche” healthy decisions. Get more sleep, exercise regularly, and keep a healthy diet. This may be taking a daily walk, going to bed a little earlier, or eliminating processed foods from your diet. Whatever it is - take care of yourself. Have confidence that these seemingly simple things will contribute to your physical health while you’re fighting cancer.

3. Practical - Often it is the little things that can make a big difference. In the past, cancer patients have recommended bringing a friend or family member to doctor appointments, asking as many questions to get the answers you need, doing research on trusted medical sites, and keeping track of all insurance and medical information.

4. Psychological - You may have heard the expression “mind over matter;” some people affected by cancer agree that a positive outlook and can-do attitude through their diagnosis starts in their mind. It might be difficult at first, but it could be helpful to find new perspectives so that you can accept your diagnosis and move forward.

5. Humor - A lot of people with cancer have simply tried to find humor in their everyday lives. Maybe there were certain things that made them uncomfortable before, but now they just find reasons to laugh about them. Finding humor in your life may give you a better perspective on your diagnosis.

Now that we’ve given you these five insights on how to cope emotionally, physically, practically, and psychologically, try to implement at least one of these tips today. You can work on it for a few days, and then try the next. Even if you feel you are moving at turtle speed, you are making progress and that is what is important!

Optional (and suggested!) Ingredients to Survivorship....Part 2

So, to wrap up my series on the Ingredients of Survivorship, we have:
1) a great medical team
2) a great support system
3) Faith
4) Positive Attitude
5) Healthy Living
6 ) optional - a dash of the Arts

and finally....
7) a dose of Words of Wisdom

Words of Wisdom...that's something that my support group leader always ends our session with. We go around the table and each of us take a bit of candy from her candy jar and says something we either learned from the group that day, or brought with us from our journeys. To quote a Caregiver who attends weekly with his wife (leukemia survivor with an auto transplant)..."Be kind to your caregivers, we're only pushy because we care."   or  "Count your blessings...there are so many people with heavier crosses to bear."

This situation inspired me to create a quilted wall hanging for our Relay for Life team to raffle off as a fundraiser. See the picture below...the white boxes are for Survivors and Caregivers or Nurses to write their own Words of Wisdom in. It's not yet completed....but will be a nice keepsake or motivational tool for the patient in the midst of treatment.

   

Some of my other favorite words of wisdom come from famous Presidents, authors, artists, leadership experts, the Bible, etc. Such as....

I never really enjoyed history while I was in school...but there is truth to the saying that you have to know your past to know where you're going in the future. These tried and true quotes and sayings had real bearing on me during my treatment and recovery. But I had to be mindful of this: be humble enough to accept and respect the words of those who have been there before you. It may not have been specifically written with cancer journeys in mind, but "Never, never, ever give up!" certainly can apply to your situation.

Thanks for reading my blog. I am open to suggestions on what to write about in the future. Next time, I post, it will be a guest blog from WhatNext.com. Check them out...they are a great resource that matches like diagnoses so you can vent, ask questions, and receive support from others who have walked the same path you are going through right now. 

Blessings to you all,

Lisa

Optional (and suggested!) Ingredients to Survivorship....

Hello again folks. In the final installment of my series on "The 5 Ingredients to Survivorship" I have a few additional options to add. Just like when a cake calls for "optional" ingredients such as nuts, raisins, or chocolate chips, I too have some options to add to my list of ingredients...in fact, these are some things I would highly recommend. To recap, my 5 Ingredients to Survivorship are: a great medical team, a super support system, faith, a positive attitude, and healthy living. If you've forgotten or missed a blog or two, they are available to refer back to on the right side of this post. So...onto the task at hand:

Optional ingredient #1: the Arts
After our journeys with treatment, Cancer survivors are quite concerned with finding their "new normal." In my case it was no different. I left a career as an Elementary Art Teacher when I was diagnosed with AML Leukemia, and due to a severely decreased immune system, there was no way I could go back to my old job with a classroom of 20+ sniffling young students. So, I had to reinvent my career. Fortunately, for me, I was an arts lover to begin with. The arts have been proven to help the healing process when faced with al sorts of things: depression, divorce, health issues, tragedies of war, and so many other uncertainties. For example, just look at the two examples below. One is from a student survivor of the Sandy Hook Elementary killings and the other a child patient explaining his experience at a hosptial.

Ok, these are both examples from children, but did you know that artist Frida Kahlo (1907-1954) suffered from childhood polio. Later, in 1925, she was in a traffic accident that left her in pain for the remainder of her life. Her famous series of self-portraits enabled her to objectify her physical sufferings, as well as the emotional turmoil resulting from her turbulent marriage to painter Diego Rivera. Other artists - such as Vincent Van Gogh who struggled with mental illness, Henri Matisse after a serious operation found it too painful to hold a paintbrush and turned to scissors in his final years, and Auguste Renoir taped a paintbrush to his wrist after suffering from rheumatoid arthritis. They all found their "new normal" and adapted to their new limitations in order to continue to thrive after their diseases/illnesses.

I have always been a theater/movie lover as well. Being in the audience and watching a musical production or a dramatic movie takes me away to another world. I forget about my issues for a while and I am lost in the storyline. Sometimes we relate to a specific character and can see our problems in a whole new way...perhaps even find a new way to deal with it.

To read a novel, or watch a play can have the same effect....but many authors attempt to resolve their issues by creating these stories we find so captivating and enveloping. They are healing as they write, and we are healing as we read.

And then their is music...I did used to play two instruments. Never composed anything myself, but simply reading sheet music and playing...allowed me an escape as well. What do you think Kelly Clarkson was writing about in her song "Stronger"? A personal experience of her own? Probably...although you and I may think about something very different. All in all...the effect is the same. The song will help us see our experiences in a new light and we begin to heal.

So seek out the arts when you are trying to or even after you have beaten cancer. It'll do your heart and mind good.

Stay tuned for the last installment - and one last optional ingredient - of the 5 Ingredients of Survivorship.

Blessings to you all,
Lisa